Feel Safe: Coping with Trauma in a Traumatized World

“Trauma” is defined as a deeply disturbing or distressing experience.

Many traumatic events have happened in our world recently. Even if you haven’t personally experienced a trauma, it’s totally normal to feel it vicariously – sometimes just from watching the news.

Experiences like these impact us to our core. When we have trouble processing trauma effectively, we can experience a lot of difficulty in our lives. Nervousness or anger can appear seemingly out of no-where. Relapses occur. Relationships suffer. Life gets hard.

Understanding how to cope with distressing experiences and symptoms is something we ALL need, so we can help ourselves and help others effectively.

Most importantly, know that everything you’re feeling at this time is probably normal and expected. Still, you deserve amazing support. Just because trauma is normal, doesn’t mean you should handle it alone. Explore your options, and find the support that works for you.

On a deep level, traumatic experiences cause us to fear for our physical safety and well-being – even when we’re safe. We do not often recognize when we’re having a trauma response, trying to minimize our experience or unsure of how to explain. Even when we DO recognize what’s happening – it’s easy to feel totally out of control when these events occur.

I’d love to give you some power back today.

We can never control what life hands us, but we CAN control our response with practice. So, in addition to the support you’ll seek, here’s a process to help you deal with trauma as it happens so that the symptoms of it don’t progress to cause serious issues in your life.

1. Become aware & prioritize feeling safe. Bring awareness to your experience, accepting your natural responses and embracing them fully. Recognize that any fearful, anxious, hyper-vigilant responses you’re having are signs that your system is working to keep you safe. As you recognize, acknowledge, understand, and embrace what you’re feeling, you’ll naturally start to feel safer. Then, actively help yourself to feel safe, whatever it takes. I love repeating a simple mantra until the fear slows down… “I’m safe”.

2. Create space for yourself to express yourself fully. Describe your experience, let it surface… through crying, yelling, punching, or maybe going for a run. Writing can be really helpful to process your experience. Trauma lives in your body, so until you let it move through you, any emotional pain you suppress will store in your body and create issues for you. Allowing your body this process creates an inner confidence and strength that you can overcome anything. Nothing from the outside will make you feel completely safe until you have this inner confidence. Set a time limit on your emotional expression to show yourself how much control you have over bringing yourself back after expressing the deep pain from your trauma.

3. Give back. The potential for positive outcomes to result from negative events is always there. Usually, the positive outcome from experiencing trauma is a new or renewed passion to help others cope with the same kind of deeply disturbing events. Once you’ve processed the challenging parts of your experience, a gratitude for what you’ve learned and a desire to help others with similar experiences can often surface and pull you forward.

Give yourself a happy ending. There’s a whole body of research on post-traumatic growth – reaching higher levels of functioning through the experience of adversity. Just don’t forget to validate yourself for the challenging parts too, OK? The world will thank you.

Release Your Money Worries: Three Steps to Stop Worrying About Money, So You Can Enjoy More of It

Has worry about money ever helped you make more of it?

Probably not. Still, most people experience some sort of financial stress. It doesn’t matter if they have a little or a lot of money, some worry is still there.

Money is energy, and it’s one of the most tangible, well-known sources of energy we have access too. We need food, shelter, and other resources to survive on this planet, and money offers means to access what we need. We crave the freedom to live however we want, to go wherever we want, and to help everyone we want to help. Money helps with those things too. It’s only natural that we want to generate, save, and exchange as much money as we can.

Releasing worry attached to money has the potential to positively impact everyone around you – especially those closest to you. Building a worry-free relationship with money helps you move more clearly & confidently towards your desires. With less energy spent worrying, there’s more left for creating, connecting, and thoroughly enjoying all of the amazing benefits money brings.

When you’re able to relax more around money, you might even find yourself making more of it. Here are three steps to stop worrying about money, so you can start enjoying it instead:

Get really honest with yourself regarding what you’re worried about. It’s rarely ever as bad in reality as it feels in your imagination. Chances are, many people feel exactly the same way you do. Write your thoughts on paper, without editing, until you’re out – you can even burn the page afterward if you’d like (safely please)! Notice the consistent things you’re worried about, and what’s contributing to your worry. What or who told you that you should worry about this in the first place? Are you ashamed of wanting money? Does it seem like money is connected to your relationships with other people? How so? Becoming aware of these patterns is an important first step to forming new ones.

Recognize  & prioritize the physical comfort that you feel. Are you fed well every day, with comfortable clothes and a roof over your head? Do you have means to get anywhere you want to go? Do you have items around you that can enhance your comfort, like a soft blanket for instance? Do you have tools to use towards your success? Regardless of your answers to these questions, starting to recognize and feel how well-equipped you really are is a necessary step towards releasing your money worries. Make your physical well-being a priority, and remember – no matter what happens, you’ll always have everything you need to succeed.

Re-focus your attention towards how you’d like to feel. There are always endless possibilities about how a situation can evolve. Why not imagine the desirable outcomes, and focus on actions that’ll help those come about, rather than circling in worry?  When we focus on how we want to feel, we often realize ways we can reach our desired outcomes immediately. The associated things we’re asking for follow naturally when we’re taking action from this abundant and satisfied place.

As you repeat this process, you’ll relax & enjoy the beautiful life you’ve earned, over and over again.


Why You Shouldn’t Listen To Me

This might seem like a strange topic, coming from someone who provides guidance & advice for a living. But, it’s true – you shouldn’t listen to me… you should listen to YOU!! Don’t get me wrong, I really value the trust my clients show by implementing my advice, and I’d never work with someone who just straight up refused to listen to me. Still, the main goal of working with my clients is to help them hear themselves more clearly & follow their own internal guidance more confidently. This way, the trust & understanding they build within themselves can carry them through each challenge they face, no matter how complex. So… if my advice doesn’t feel good to you, please, don’t listen to it! Listen to yourself instead. Your collaboration with other people (including me!) will only get stronger this way. Leave a comment and let me know what you think!! See you next week.

Get More Done: Prioritizing When You’re Busy But Not Productive


Are there things youd like to accomplish in life, but you dont know where youll find the time?

Many people are busy all the time, without actually being productive at all. Its maddening and draining to spend valuable time and energy running in circles. Were busy scooping water out of a sinking boat that has holes in the bottom.

Perpetual busy-ness leaves us feeling scattered. When were feeling this way, we cant decide and act with clarity when opportunities arise – often because were running so fast we blew right by the opening.

When we dont clear time and space in our minds, our homes, and our calendars, leaving room for relaxation, reflection, introspection, and the unexpected, were blind to new opportunities, or we block them from entering our lives entirely. When we do this, were rejecting our ticket up to lifes next level.

Clearing time and space means saying noto things, when sometimes weve been saying yesfor awhile. The thought of re-arranging to clear space for the unseen can be daunting, to say the least.

The good news is, you dont need to take this on alone.

If youd like to be more productive and less busy, so you can comfortably rise to your lifes next level, here are three steps to get started:


  • Check your beliefs about success. What do you believe it’ll take to up-level? Are you afraid achieving more will require you to work longer and harder? This isn’t always true. As humans, we avoid pain, and we prefer the familiar. Thinking we’ll need to run ourselves ragged to get things accomplished can prevent us from ever starting in the first place. It IS possible to do-do-do less while achieving more. Believing it’s possible is an important first step.



  • Do what you want, not what you “should”. Start paying attention to the parts of your day that make you feel good, and the parts that don’t feel so good. Ask your body what it wants and needs from you, even if this feels a little silly at first, so it can become your best friend instead of your biggest stumbling block. Take time to dream about the things that inspire you, and the places you want to go. Imagine the things you want to achieve. Say “yes” to the things that feel good, that take you in your desirable direction, and let the rest go to make space for something new.



  • Get good support. Outsource. Find experts who love doing what you’re weakest at. When it makes sense, release control and let other people take responsibility. Would it take someone else 5 minutes to do something that takes you 5 hours? Are there agencies available to help you with things like family care or running errands? Hire a personal assistant, a personal trainer, a coach, or some type of unbiased, inspirational support to keep you accountable and help you see things clearly. Think about what support you’ll need from your loved ones to make changes in your schedule, and ask them for what you need. Ask for help, and be willing to receive it.


Above all else, know that focusing your energy towards your goals makes you smart and successful, not lazy or irresponsible, and accepting help is a strength not a weakness.

Taking these steps to be more productive and less busy will help you plug the holes in your boat, for smooth sailing all the way to the top.

Don’t forget to enjoy the view.


Have You Enjoyed Your Conversations Lately?

This week I’m musing about enjoying our conversations. For many of us, our interactions with other people offer up some of the most difficult parts of our day. It doesn’t have to be this way. Our relationships with other people can be the most fulfilling parts of our lives, both personally and professionally. Collaborating helps us achieve more together than we ever could alone. We want communicating to feel easy, we want to achieve our goals, we want to feel more understood & respected by the people around us, and we want to excite others to work with us towards the things we care about. Doing what it takes to ENJOY the conversations we have can help us do these things. There’s always something to learn from each interaction, and there’s always SOMETHING you can enjoy. Start today. And please, leave a comment & let me know what you think! See you next week.


Finding Closure & Expansion After Hard Times

Are you embarking on a new beginning after a time of confusion, questioning, or challenging darkness? Challenging times offer us opportunities to grow, and they can be launching pads helping us clarify our goals & move towards our desires. On the other hand, if we keep our challenges hidden from view, we’ll never feel truly seen or understood by others, and more importantly, we won’t love all parts of ourselves with the fullness & wholeness it takes to m. Our personal darkness & how we manage it makes us who we are – for better or for worse. Today’s tip offers some questions you can use to bring closure to your challenges – so you can expand through embracing your darkness and the lessons it brings & move forward with a clean, clear slate. At the end, I share about how these Tuesday videos will be changing moving forward! Thanks for watching, and I’ll see you in May.


How to Welcome More Awesomeness Into Your Life

Sometimes welcoming good things into our lives is easier said than done. Today’s Tuesday Tip Video offers three steps you can take to welcome your desires in with a little more ease and a little less effort. You deserve everything you’ve been asking for, and it’s ready for you!! Follow these steps to relax and allow the good things to come in. Let me know how it goes, won’t you? See you next week!

How to Inspire, Excite, & Engage with Others… When You Aren’t Really Feeling It

When it comes to building success and leaving a legacy, we need to build engaging connections with other people – our core support system, our clients, our bosses, our teams… Everyone! Other people play important parts in the lives we’re creating, even if you prefer to roam as a lone wolf most of the time. Inspiring the people around you can feel daunting, especially when you’re not feeling inspired yourself. Still, learning how to inspire & engage other people can be an invaluable tool in your life if you develop it. Today’s tip video gives you 3 considerations to get started! Enjoy.


How to Navigate Change Like a Pro

This week’s Tuesday Tip is all about change!
Change is an unavoidable part of life. It’s a necessary part of growth & expansion. If you aren’t actively changing, life will change things up for you. When we’re able to roll with the changes rather than resisting them, we can use them to our advantage rather than letting them knock us off course entirely. Today’s video will help you become master change artist, so you can experience consistent stability – no matter what life throws at you.