Mental Wholeness Step 6: Emotional Alchemy

It has been said that emotions are energy in motion – emotions are energy moving through our body.

Practicing emotional alchemy will help you take the reins back over this process.

This is the component that usually sparks the most resistance – for both my clients and myself. We live in a world that fears emotion, and as a result, most of us fear our deepest emotions too.

One time, as a teenager, I remember feeling so much heated rage running through me that I ran outside and laid down in the winter snow.

The strategy actually kind of worked… better than anything else I’d found, at least.

Of course, I looked nuts to everyone around me at the time.

I’ve experienced literally writhing in emotional pain, feeling so alone… I really struggled with my emotions for a long time.

My feelings are so strong, and I never received tangible guidance about how to deal with my strong emotions effectively – without shoving them down.

Shoving my emotions down only ever led to anxiety, substance abuse, and total meltdowns when the weight got to be too much. Thank goodness my stored emotions never developed into full-blown physical illness.

(Here’s an article that talks about the link between emotional health and physical health).

We are always going to experience a full spectrum of emotion. Highs, lows, and everything in between. (Recognizing and embracing this is an important part of Acceptance).

We need a way to deal with the challenging emotions in a manner that doesn’t sink us.

Especially when you’re someone who feels things really strongly, like me.

It is 100% YOUR responsibility to manage to way you feel. Emotional Alchemy is all about honing your ability to feel good unconditionally – regardless of your life situation or what the people around you are doing.

Thinking you can rain positivity over your challenging times or just “love and light” your way out of every conflicting feeling is called spiritual bypassing.

Emotions aren’t inherently good or bad, they just are. All emotions are valuable. When we welcome the full spectrum of emotion, we’re welcoming a full and diverse life.

When we shut ourselves down emotionally we create a breeding ground for disease in our bodies.

Emotional Alchemy is all about switching from resistance to curiosity when it comes to your emotions – curiosity without judgment.

Nothing stuffs an emotion down better than feeling like you shouldn’t be experiencing it, so leave your judgment at the door.

Then take three basic steps:

  1. Lean into what you’re feeling. Try to understand where you’re coming from without judgment.
  2. Feel the feeling completely, until you feel a relieving shift in your body. (I’ve processed emotions that took days or weeks, but usually this part only takes minutes or moments).
  3. Examine the perspectives and interpretations that led to your feelings. Examine the role you played in the creation of the emotion. Are there any new understandings that could create more connection with yourself and the people around you? What can you learn from your experience? What can you do differently & what will you repeat again in the future?

It is extremely helpful to have outside support while diving into Emotional Alchemy, especially during the third step.

When people come to me for a consultation, this is without fail some the first guidance I give them – start looking at your unprocessed emotions that are weighing you down. That’s why I created the Emotional Alchemy Starter Kit – it’s a great first step for anyone considering working with me, and it provides more in-depth step-by-step instructions for deepening mind-body connection and processing emotions.

I’ve also talked about emotional alchemy in this video.

For now, I’ll leave you with this question: What emotion is waiting right under the surface of your awareness, ready to be felt?

If you’re looking for personalized guidance, support, or just to continue the conversation, feel free to email me any time – I’d love to connect with you.

The next component is Boundaries.

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