Mental Wholeness Step 6: Emotional Alchemy

It has been said that emotions are energy in motion – emotions are energy moving through our body.

Practicing emotional alchemy will help you take the reins back over this process.

This is the component that usually sparks the most resistance – for both my clients and myself. We live in a world that fears emotion, and as a result, most of us fear our deepest emotions too.

One time, as a teenager, I remember feeling so much heated rage running through me that I ran outside and laid down in the winter snow.

The strategy actually kind of worked… better than anything else I’d found, at least.

Of course, I looked nuts to everyone around me at the time.

I’ve experienced literally writhing in emotional pain, feeling so alone… I really struggled with my emotions for a long time.

My feelings are so strong, and I never received tangible guidance about how to deal with my strong emotions effectively – without shoving them down.

Shoving my emotions down only ever led to anxiety, substance abuse, and total meltdowns when the weight got to be too much. Thank goodness my stored emotions never developed into full-blown physical illness.

(Here’s an article that talks about the link between emotional health and physical health).

We are always going to experience a full spectrum of emotion. Highs, lows, and everything in between. (Recognizing and embracing this is an important part of Acceptance).

We need a way to deal with the challenging emotions in a manner that doesn’t sink us.

Especially when you’re someone who feels things really strongly, like me.

It is 100% YOUR responsibility to manage to way you feel. Emotional Alchemy is all about honing your ability to feel good unconditionally – regardless of your life situation or what the people around you are doing.

Thinking you can rain positivity over your challenging times or just “love and light” your way out of every conflicting feeling is called spiritual bypassing.

Emotions aren’t inherently good or bad, they just are. All emotions are valuable. When we welcome the full spectrum of emotion, we’re welcoming a full and diverse life.

When we shut ourselves down emotionally we create a breeding ground for disease in our bodies.

Emotional Alchemy is all about switching from resistance to curiosity when it comes to your emotions – curiosity without judgment.

Nothing stuffs an emotion down better than feeling like you shouldn’t be experiencing it, so leave your judgment at the door.

Then take three basic steps:

  1. Lean into what you’re feeling. Try to understand where you’re coming from without judgment.
  2. Feel the feeling completely, until you feel a relieving shift in your body. (I’ve processed emotions that took days or weeks, but usually this part only takes minutes or moments).
  3. Examine the perspectives and interpretations that led to your feelings. Examine the role you played in the creation of the emotion. Are there any new understandings that could create more connection with yourself and the people around you? What can you learn from your experience? What can you do differently & what will you repeat again in the future?

It is extremely helpful to have outside support while diving into Emotional Alchemy, especially during the third step.

When people come to me for a consultation, this is without fail some the first guidance I give them – start looking at your unprocessed emotions that are weighing you down. That’s why I created the Emotional Alchemy Starter Kit – it’s a great first step for anyone considering working with me, and it provides more in-depth step-by-step instructions for deepening mind-body connection and processing emotions.

I’ve also talked about emotional alchemy in this video.

For now, I’ll leave you with this question: What emotion is waiting right under the surface of your awareness, ready to be felt?

If you’re looking for personalized guidance, support, or just to continue the conversation, feel free to email me any time – info@briannamcinerny.com. I’d love to connect with you.

The next component is Boundaries.

Mental Wholeness Step 2: Body Buzz

Your body has the potential to lead you towards everything you’ve ever wanted.

Body Buzz is all about tapping into this potential, so you can use your body as your wand in the world.

There’s nothing and no-one you can trust more than your body.

Your body is a magical vessel that carries your consciousness (and your soul/spirit/divine connection, if you believe in that sort of thing).

It has the ability to heal itself.

It can guide you towards the fulfillment of your purpose… through following your desires & what feels REALLY GOOD. How freaking cool is that?

You may say that you’re sick, or you have evidence your body isn’t a friend of yours.

If that sounds like you, I challenge you to reconsider. I’m confident that you’re going to get a lot farther working WITH your body than you will while you’re working against it.

Hating your body IS working against it.

The way I see it, Body Buzz works in three layers: body love (video), prioritizing physical comfort, and seeking pleasure.

To tap into this component of Mental Wholeness, love your body exactly as it is. Choose to prioritize your own comfort and physical well-being. Seek activities that bring your body pleasure, and be willing to experience good-feeling things on deeper and deeper levels.  

This is about nurturing a deep connection to your body. Period.

It’s not just about “taking care of yourself” by forcing your body into activities/diets/procedures that logically make sense to you.

Get curious and LISTEN to the messages your body is sending you, on a moment to moment basis. Nurture a smooth line of communication between mind and body.

Create a routine that taps into these principles to train your body to buzz on the regular – no substances required.

(Of course, you’re free to dabble in substance as you wish, you won’t find any judgment here).

Replace parts of your routine that you do because you “should” or you feel like you need to with things that your body actually WANTS and loves.

Is your body craving macaroni and cheese? Eat up. Thoroughly enjoy every bite. Don’t shame yourself for it.

Without the complications of shame and negative self-talk, your body can ask for what it wants & you can give it to yourself – without judgment.

Make sure you drink lots of water and eat lots of veggies, too. Notice how that feels in your body. Be willing to learn about your body’s unique dietary preferences. Seek a balance that makes YOU feel good – as opposed to judging any food as inherently good or bad. Try to eat in a way that brings you pleasure – before, during, and after.

Instead of running on a treadmill or doing exercise that you hate doing, do something you love – like putting on one of your favorite songs and dancing around at full blast, or going for a walk outside.

Stretch your body lots and have plenty of orgasms.

I just stopped writing this to stretch out my spine. I didn’t even need to get off the couch to stretch things out in a way that felt really satisfying.

It probably looked kind of funny, but whatever.

Prioritize asking your body what it needs to feel loved, more comfortable, and turned on to sensation in each moment – then deliver on what it’s asking for. Look for answers inside of yourself. See what happens.

Connecting & communicating with your body in this way will not only help you feel better NOW. You’ll feel better and better over time.

Let me give you another example of how this works with what you’re already doing throughout your day.

Recently, I was removing some standing water our malfunctioning dishwasher. A potentially annoying situation, yeah?


Throughout the course of my task, I was crouched in uncomfortable positions. I worked with my body and listened to what it needed. I stood up and stretched out my hips, legs, and spine, moving around as often as I needed to. I’d make sure my stomach was engaged, taking some weight off of my legs and hips.

I fed my ears with podcasts I love and some of my favorite vinyls, to bring some pleasure into the mix.

Making myself more comfortable and finding opportunities for pleasure made the whole experience much more enjoyable – about as enjoyable as trying to fix a dishwasher can be.

I left the situation with my mood intact, maybe even improved – even though I wasn’t able to get the dishwasher working again.

When your body, your love of your body, and pleasure (without judgment and shame) lead your choices, you’ll become happier and healthier for the rest of your life.

Tap into your body & love it up in this way.

It will lead you exactly where you need to be, and it’ll feel effortless. You’ll become more aware of what you want, and more able to make your desires a reality.

Take a deep breath, feel all the way out through your fingers and toes, and ask this question: What can I do to bring my body more love, comfort, and pleasure – right in this moment?

What would make your body buzz?

What actions are you inspired to take? I’d love to hear from you in the comments or in my inbox.

If you’re looking for personalized guidance, support, or just to continue this conversation, feel free to email me any time – info@briannamcinerny.com. I’d love to connect with you.

The next component is Beliefs.

Introducing the Emotional Alchemy Starter Kit

We are creative leaders, warriors of expression. We crave positive impact, encouraging others with every breath we take.
Our bodies are human animals. Emotions run wild inside of us, adding unique swagger to every move we make.
Is your animal your loyal friend and your most powerful secret weapon, like the Direwolves in Game of Thrones?
Or… do you explode out of your skin every full moon like a werewolf?
Maybe it’s both.
We’ve worked hard all our lives to get our inner beasts under control. We pulled this off with very little guidance and structure helping us to do it well.
We all deserve to bring out our best selves by nurturing our inner animals, and we all deserve support while we do it.
That’s what’s on offer when we practice Emotional Alchemy.
SLICE Inspiration & Consulting’s Emotional Alchemy Starter Kit offers three key exercises to transform all emotions and sensations into physical prowess and creative fuel.
Daily practice of these exercises keeps us sailing smoothly when life gets rough… when mistakes, losses, and the unexpected happen.
They help us love ourselves and others more fully.
READ: Significantly fewer “blow-up moments” that become shorter, scarcer, and actually more enjoyable over time.
(Mental wholeness takes us a step further… teaching us how to plant beautiful green grass & a flower garden exactly where we are in life – so we can create the world we want, rather than wistfully dreaming about the other side of the fence).
Emotional Alchemy deepens our experience in life, whether we’re new to emotional work or we already know our emotions deeply.
Saying “yes” to something like this doesn’t mean we’ve failed in any way, or that we can’t handle our shit.
Investing time and energy into this means we’re smart. It means we’re playful and curious. It means we’re open and willing to expand in all areas of life.
With these tools in hand, we’ll be better together than we could ever be alone.
Are you ready to turn your emotions into gold? Start making magic with the Emotional Alchemy Starter Kit today.

 

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