Moving Through Dissonance to Resonance In Your Relationships

Are you finding resonance in your relationships and collaborations?

In the process of developing fuller, deeper resonance in your relationships, there is so much unseen at play.

It can feel nearly impossible to express your full self with words.

There’s almost always some additional nuance or something else that comes up later.

There’s often an edge of experience that language can’t touch.

Questions hanging in the air.

Some energetic thing swirling around the room, trying to come to life between you.

In these moments, sharing openly what we’re experiencing, and witnessing each other with reciprocity and respect can help us comprehend the situation more fully & bring our projects and relationships to life.

Everyone has a meaningful perspective to contribute. 

Uncertainty in communications and relationships can bring out the worst in people, especially with our closest people with whom the stakes are highest.

As humans we are incredibly sensitive to anything that jeopardizes our sense of safety and belonging.

Fear in our most challenging collaborative or intimate moments can lead us to shut down, cling and control, become hurtful, or run away… anything we can do to protect ourselves and relieve the discomfort of ambiguity. This robs us of the closeness we crave.

When we open our hearts up to each other instead, say the things we need to say even when it feels super uncomfortable, and find our way back from the edge together, we can develop a truly special connection within the relationship.

It takes an incredible amount of trust and vulnerability to communicate this way… and it’s so rich and rewarding to be part of.

Once you’ve built a foundation like this with someone, you can speak more freely. You KNOW they feel your heart. You know if you say something wrong, or something you said has limits, that they will ask questions to clarify, or simply understand when understanding feels necessary. They will help you see yourself more clearly.

On our way to resonance in relationships, the discomfort of dissonance and conflict is inevitable.

Through navigating inevitable conflicts as they come up, trust builds.

You come to know that when things go awry, you can find common ground, lean on your mutual respect, communicate, and sort things out. With time, you trust them to honor you, as you do them. A deeper sense of comfort and security with each other can take hold.

With trust and transparency like that, collaboration can really start to flow and hum.

You start to know you’re safe together, and you’re on the same team.

Shared trust allows meaningful progress to unfold. 

And the truth is, it only takes one person to hold the line of love in the room and make all of this possible.

It only takes one person ruthlessly embodying resonance & your shared vision to call everyone else forward.

What might unlock for you if you grew more comfortable communicating like this?

Are you willing to feel the dissonance of conflict along your way to fuller, deeper resonance with others?

Are you willing to prioritize resonance within yourself first?

Doesn’t resonance feel good?

I would love to discuss in the comments or DMs.

If you want to communicate and collaborate with more openness, honesty, safety, and “feel”, I would love to work with you.

Here are a few options:

Sign Up for Living Ritual. This 2-hour virtual class will explore how to weave intention and ritual into every little thing you do, so you can feel more power, magic, and specialness in your day to day life.
Some related questions I’m exploring while I’m developing the content: What does it look like to channel the energy of resonance in relationships into ritual work? How can we use this concept enhance our existing relationships and attract the right people to us?

Join my Conscious Wholeness course. This online self-study course will help you cultivate the feeling of fuller, deeper resonance within yourself. Come with me on a journey of connecting with and understanding yourself, in a way that encourages complete self-love and self-acceptance, without just burying your head in the sand.

Work with me privately. During an Align Initial Session, we’ll get clear on where you’re at, what you’re working towards, and hash out our plan for getting you there. These sessions are designed to start a working relationship of at least 3 months. Contractual agreements can include team coordination, meeting/workshop facilitation, and creative production support. We will discuss all of that and decide what you need together during the initial session.

Would a conversation help you sort out your next step? Would you like to request public speaking, facilitation for a strategic planning meeting, or something else? Contact me here, let’s talk.

Love always, until next time.